Pro-abort blog encourages pregnant mother
to jump off abortion cliff
Yesterday "abortion-positive" blogger Melissa at Shakesville posted a
request from reader Kirsten, soon to be undergoing an RU-486 abortion,
for affirmation with her decision because "she's a little anxious about
the actual procedure." Careful wording, I thought. Not guilt that she
will be killing her baby, just fear of the "actual procedure."
Anti-choice Melissa didn't allow any, "Don't do it; everything will
turn out ok" or "I regret my abortion" posts, so I'm hoping commenters
here will fill that gap.
Meanwhile, 3 of the comments struck me.
From Red Queen
Since I'm one of "those women who use abortion as
birth control" I can totally give you the run down on my experience.
The pill was great. I took one at the clinic, the
other at home a few hours later. Sometime after that I had some
(relatively) mild cramping and tada. The only thing that was hard about
it was that I bled for nearly 3 weeks afterwards.
Surgical abortion (early - like 8 weeks) I have a
heart shaped uterus which made the procedure take longer than it should
have. It was bad, but it was only bad for a little while. It took so
long that the anesthesia ran out and they couldn't give me more. But as
soon as it was over i felt fine. No bleeding, no cramping.
Surgical abortion (late, very late term) this one
was rough, but only because I was so far along. I was a 2 day procedure
using sea weed lamaria to dilate my cervix. That night was difficult,
crampy, exhausted, ect. Having to spend 2 days in a clinic with a
(then) toddler was rough. I didn't have childcare, but the clinic staff
were awesome. When it was over I slept for 14 hours straight and then
was perfectly fine.
Emotionally, the hardest one was the late one, but
only because i felt like a tool for not figuring out I was pregnant
earlier. These pregnancies were nothing like when I got pregnant with
my son. I knew before the stick even turned that I wanted to be his
mom. With the other pregnancies (both before and after giving birth) I
didn't have that overwhelming sense of want that I did for the Kid. So
I didn't have a problem with the abortions. I would have felt much
worse bringing a kid into the world that I didn't want with my whole
being.
I read Red Queen's backstory at the link she provided. Rough life.
From Jadelyn
I had a medical abortion 3 years ago. On Mother's
Day weekend. With my mom taking care of me. We still giggle about my
"Un-Mother's Day" every now and again....
I was 21, in college, busy with my life, and I don't
even want kids at all ever anyway....
Saturday morning came around. My mom had shooed my
younger brother out of the house for the weekend to give me some peace
and quiet. She made me breakfast, then I went upstairs and took the
second set of pills. She had bought and had waiting for me a couple
boxes of pads - they tell you DO NOT use tampons for this - and had
laid in some of my favorite DVDs and stuff. She had cleared her weekend
to take care of me.
At the clinic they'd warned me that it would hurt,
like menstrual cramps but worse. Honestly, I didn't think it was that
bad.... I just laid around on the couch all day, watching movies and
bleeding and occasionally cramping. By Sunday night, the bleeding had
subsided to more or less my normal period level, and I went back to
school.
I am so grateful that I had the support I did. My
mom took care of me....
Jadelyn is a self-described "pagan feminist, and the name of her blog
is WitchWords. Jadelyn's latest Twitter post:
Aborting on Mother's Day weekend? Joking about "Un-Mothers Day"? Man.
From phredrika
I've had three abortions (2 surgical, and 1 sort of
herb-induced miscarriage when I was very young and in college). I have
never regretted it. Never. I've been trying to write about the
experiences and it is difficult....
Reading all of this just makes me cry, I guess that
there is such support. The 1-month anniversary of my last abortion was
last week, on my first day of law school - I was in a new place, with
no friends and no support physically with me. And it was ok. I am in
such a conservative place, and I think I've always kept these things
secret because when I've shared, my friends have not been supportive.
And I don't want to keep this quiet, and I don't want anyone to be
ashamed about having an abortion.
I'm sorry, it sure sounds like phredrika regrets her abortions, despite
the brave face. Writing about it difficult? Remembering the
anniversaries of the abortions?
The comments were all so heartbreaking. It is not the fault of
"conservatives" that pre-abortive mothers fret and post-abortive
pro-abortive mothers bury negative emotions and encourage others to be
like them, to prop themselves up. Maternal instincts to protect one's
own children and not kill them are built in.
I pray Kirsten changes her mind. Don't do it, Kirsten.
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